This weekend, I had the privilege of accompanying a group of high school students to a local nursing home to do some volunteer work (and yes, I'm guilty of complaining about having to work on a Saturday). It turned out to be a great experience, one that initiated an interesting conversation.
I spent most of the day directing the high school students (although, at the beginning of the day the activities coordinator of the facility came up to me and said, "Are you from the school waiting for Mrs. Nelson?" To which I kindly smiled and said, "I am Mrs. Nelson." I know, I know...I'll appreciate that when I'm 50.)
Anyway... toward the end of our time at the facility, an older gentleman came and sat near me. We began to talk and he shared with me that his wife was doing some volunteer work, and he was waiting for her to finish up. He was telling me about how much he loves to read, and that he has read 600+ books in the last 10 years. As we were talking, Brad walked in the door and sat down next to me. The man said to him, "Do you know this girl? Her face lit up when you came in." To which Brad proudly proclaimed, "She's my wife."
The men got to chatting, and this gentleman informed us that he and his wife have been married for 57 years. Brad told him, "Congratulations, that's amazing." His response is what sparked our conversation, "Thank you. But it shouldn't be." He proceeded to tell us about how his wife is his best friend, and how they've been through a lot together over the past 57 years. He said that they never fight--"well, we disagree about somethings, everybody does" -- and that they truly enjoy each others company. They reminded me of these folks:
My grandma and grandpap have been married for 50+ years.
It must have something to do with the fact that my grandfather is a fabulous dancer! :)
Brad brought up the man's comment yesterday as we grabbed a quick lunch at Yocco's (no, I did
NOT eat a hot dog!) and we got to chatting. We came up with some theories about marriage, and why people are so surprised to learn about couples that have been married 50+ years. I'd like to hear your thoughts--what are your tips for a long and happy marriage?
I'm interested to hear what you have to say. Blessings!
-Nikki
